Feb 17
A good laugh will lift anyone to a more receptive state. I have discovered a new ebook written by a stripper on this very topic. She is down to earth, experienced and really tells it like it is. Be sure to check this out!
Jan 31
This great subliminal site offers a subliminal video that helps you be the best man you can be. Just rest… relax and see the changes…
Oct 18
We have been working hard on a new project that is now ready for you. We will have additional email series for women and couples so check back!
Just fill out the following form to get our new email series for the man who wants to please his partners. I know you fit that group if you are male… It is full of very interesting tips and information that is sure to make your partner very happy.
Jun 28
Why Is It Difficult for Women to Reach an Orgasm?
According to reports, roughly 70% of women don’t reach an orgasm during intercourse. Although that figure in itself is shocking, it also makes you wonder about how many women never orgasm at all (i.e., intercourse or not)!
A lot of flack fall on men on why women don’t experience an orgasm but truth be told, women have a lot to do about this as well whether they realize it or not.
6 Reasons Why Women DON’T Climax
There are many reasons why women don’t reach sexual climax. Some of them maybe men’s faults but a lot can be because of her too…
Foreplay? What foreplay?
Foreplay is extremely important. For women, making love begins in the mind and if you don’t ‘condition’ her mind for sex, then chances are she won’t be sexually reciprocating in bed too. Furthermore, women really do need more time than men to reach an orgasm; so foreplay is actually your way of extending your own sexual stamina.
She’s thinking too much!
Women are natural multi-taskers. Unfortunately, they’re so used to thinking and doing several things at the same time that they find it hard to simply be ‘in the moment’ during sex. If most men can be very ‘in the zone’ during sex, women seem to have various thoughts running through their heads all the time (e.g., home chores that need to be done, kids’ homework, dirty laundry, etc.).
She’s full of… insecurities.
Women have many body image issues. While you may adore her, her mind is probably worried about at least three different things as you undress her: Is the light revealing any cellulite? Are my ‘love handles’ protruding? Does he think my breasts are too small/big?
If body image anxiety is not in her head, then she may be thinking about things such as “I didn’t shower yet, I hope I smell good… especially down there.”, or “I didn’t pee. I hope I don’t embarrass myself.”
ALL these thoughts are making her focus on the wrong things! It’s taking attention away from sexual pleasure and into sexual insecurities. And when a woman is in this mode, it’s almost impossible to her focus on reaching her own climax!
She really doesn’t know her own body.
There is a certain art form to making love to a woman’s body. It really does have a lot of mysterious curves, spots and turns. Sadly, many women don’t indulge in a lot of ‘self exploration’ when it comes to sex. As such, it’s hard to guide you on what makes her feel good or which techniques really turn her on. And really, if she doesn’t know her own body, how can you be expected to instinctively know what brings her pleasure, right?
The best thing is… it’s never too late to learn! Why don’t you BOTH explore her body? Don’t rush anything and try everything. See what turns her on best and use that knowledge to make her reach her orgasm. Make it your sexual quest! However, here are some clues to save you a few steps…
YOU’re not paying attention!
True, men are not mind-readers. Unfortunately, many women are not great communicators in bed as well so we have a little problem here. Compounding this problem is of course that favorite female bedroom habit of ‘faking orgasms’. As a result, YOU think that what you’re doing is great when in reality you may not even be close!
To solve this particular problem, try to develop a certain ‘sexual code’ between you two. For instance, a slight squeeze on your arm means “You’re doing great! Pls. keep doing it!”; while nails on your skin or arm mean “enough of that!”. You will receive more squeezes, however, if you know some important facts. Click here to learn more…
YOU’re changing ‘techniques’ too fast.
Men like to try different sexual positions and that’s great but sometimes you may be changing just a bit too fast. Women need to get accustomed to a certain ‘rhythm’ before sexual pleasure begins to climb. If you keep shifting positions, she will either (a) never find the position that brings her an orgasm, (b) lose the sexual pleasure she was experiencing in the previous position or (c) be so frustrated that even if you go back to the same position, she may not be that sexually aroused again.
So keep this in mind: when it comes to female orgasm it’s not just location, location, location… it’s also about repetition, repetition, repetition.
Hopefully this list of potential reasons why your partner is not reaching an orgasm paves the way for discussion between the two of you. Don’t focus on why she’s not reaching an orgasm. Instead, focus on what you guys are going to do, so that she does reach her climax. That’s a more positive approach and lot more fun too! Learn creative and easy ways to do it here…
Jun 17
When I was married to my husband, Sam, we used to love white water canoeing. Not the superfast water where you took your life in your hands… We liked a moderate challenge with alternating pools of cool cold water interspersed with fairly challenging rapids. There was such a river in Arkansas that we canoed quite often. The time I remember best was our first trip down the river. We had just put in and paddled our canoes about a bit in open water to get the hang of it. It seemed for every set of rapids, there was a “wimp waterway” that ran alongside that was much less challenging. On our first set of rapids, we chose to use the easier waterway. As we were entering under a tree overhanging the water, Sam said to me. “Debra watermoccasin, lie down and be still”. That is just what I did, I lay on my back and looked up to an overhanging branch to see a watermoccasin wraped around a limb just above my head as I floated by. Sam lay forward in the boat and we both passed without harm except to our nerves.
I have a butterfly tattoo just above my left breast left over from my years as a stripper. I decided to swim in one of the pools and when I came up a lovely butterfly was flitting around my head and stayed with me for many miles downriver. She landed on my butterfly, flitted around my head, sat on my shoulder and behaved in a very un-butterfly sort of way. It felt like magic.
Eventually, we came to a large flock of bright yellow finches who were in the treetops on both sides of the river. Our paddles, it seemed, encouraged them to fly just ahead of us and with us from treetop to treetop down river for a couple of miles… Again, more magic ( or blessings from nature)…
Sam and I spotted a waterfall above the river so we pulled our boat over to the side and hiked up to the falls. It was delicious to let the water rush over our bodies. It was not long before we had both shed our clothes and stood nude with the water rushing over our skin. It became obvious that we were both turned on by the sensation so we began kissing and touching with the water falling over us.
We decided to make love right there in nature. I knelt on the bottom of the stream and Sam knelt behind me. We had terrific sex with the possibility that others canoeing below could possibly see us. What a turn on! I must confess, the feel of the rocks on the stream bed were hard to get past… but I managed to forget about them entirely as we got into the sensuality of the moment.
The rest of the trip, while very pleasant, was less adventurous. We were fishing for trout with kernals of corn. Folks were pulling in their limits all over. I caught nothing – until we had reached the end of the trip and the canoes were being loaded onto the truck for portage back to where we started. I cast my line one last time and my line wrapped around another line of someone who had caught this fish before. He seemed large and I was excited until I finally got him out of the water. It turned out to be a bottom feeder commonly called a “hog nosed sucker fish”. The nose did indeed look like a hog. it was obviously a bottom feeder and its skin seemed to be stretched over a hard, almost solid skeleton of bone… In otherwords a totally useless fish. I tossed him back and never had much luck with fishing after that – until I caught a 25 pound salmon just outside of San Francisco Bay many years later.
The memories of that trip linger to this day, the water moccasin, the butterfly and the wonderful sex under the waterfall… It all adds up to an unforgettable memory – just one of many I plan to share with you as we go along.
Stop back and see what I will tell you about next. All true memories, friend… Til later.
